Are
you a High Status Person or a Low Status Person?
As
a social scientist I am always intrigued by the way humans interact with one
another. The other day I pondered the question of why do women reject men? It’s
funny because I am a woman and I really don’t know. Much of our actions are
seemingly instinctual or done subconsciously. I came across the conclusion that
as women we reject or choose men based primarily on social stratification which
simply put is the hierarchy of social classes in a culture. Every culture has
social stratification and social status rules much in our lives. At least
coming from the point of view of an early twenty-something year old woman in
America.
Many
men will scorn the world because they are rejected by a woman. I mean the world
just seems so unfair because why can’t she see that he will treat her better
than the usual rich and attractive men that she goes after. It is an old saying
that we want what we can’t have and I believe that most women desire men that
are above their social status. It saddens me because this leaves many good men
with their hearts broken and hardened but women have to go after the person
that would most likely be able to support and take care of her children. This
can be a good thing because from a basic survival standpoint, one needs to be
able to determine which persons are different and potentially dangerous. Also
one needs to be able to determine which person has the best means and DNA to
reproduce and help them survive. The problem with this is, if there is a group
that is on the top that means there are people beneath them.
While
surfing the net I found a hilar website called seductionbase.com. It’s a site
for PUA (pick up artists). I have to give a legend key for all of the douchebag acronyms.
Apparently
this whole PUA trend is pretty popular with forums and websites dedicated to
the “art” of picking up women. Although entirely sexist in nature, he
does have some really good points! LOL
I
especially liked his post on the qualities of high status people found
here http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/Before_PU/basic/198.html .
It has some truth to it because some of these exhibit leadership capabilities
and alpha male tendencies that can apply to both men and women. Here are some
lists to know if you are a high status person or low status person.
Qualities of High Status People
· They
are attractive and desirable
It’s
no secret that people who are physically fit and healthy are deemed not only
more attractive but more likable and successful. There are people who feel that
even though they have a little extra around the middle they are still healthy
and happy. While this may be true, from a social standpoint healthy
looking = happy successful person is usually the stereotype. They also
keep up with the trends of the time. That is a part of being socially adept.
· They
are naturally confident
I
think this one speaks for itself. I think it is pretty obvious when someone is
cultivating false confidence. True confidence is not loud; it’s not bragging,
or defensive. When someone is truly confident it is silently known, powerful,
and expansive. These people believe in their abilities.
· Socially
gifted
You
know the type. The person who can effortlessly make friends everywhere he or
she goes or charm an entire crowd with her wit. It seems like a natural gift
that they’re born with.
· They
value their time and energy
This
I especially agreed with because people who are successful are usually always
doing something for the betterment of themselves. While others are doing things
to seek pleasure and outside validation, these people are constantly working
towards their goals.
· People
seek approval and attention from them
People
will jump through hoops for these people and hang onto their every word. People
see their value and worth and want to be around them. They are the ones sought
out for validation.
Qualities of Low Status People
· Seeking
outside approval, acceptance, and validation
Some
people don’t know how to validate themselves so they seek it from other people
through attention. This translates into clinginess, needy, and desperation.
They chase people and things for validation. They will do anything to make
themselves feel worthy.
· Hateful
of people and things they cannot have or be like
You
know that salty guy that called you out of your name when you refused to give
him your number? Yea that would be this guy. Instead of appreciating or looking
up to others some people become bitter and hateful. I don’t know why this is.
Let rejection inspire you to be a better person.
· They
try to buy what they can’t earn
If
you walk into the club saying, It ain’t tricking if you got it, then
you my friend, might be low status. This actually makes you look lower than
dirt. This is saying you’re so low that you have to give money in order to be
accepted. At the end of the day no one will respect you or like you anymore for
trying to buy friendship, love, or sex.
· Socially
awkward
They
don’t know how to just relax and be themselves around other people. And when
they open their mouths they say things that are inappropriate to the situation.
They either do too much or not enough. Social skills is basically being able to
feel others out and being appropriate to the group of people, and the activity.
· They
are constantly fearful and jealous
These
people believe the world is a big scary place. They are prone to outbursts of
anger at people and are usually pessimistic. Instead of taking steps to fix
their problems they just complain. They use manipulation to control the people
around them because of their jealously.
Well
I hope this can save some of you high status people from acting so low status
(LOL). Also, men you can use this information to your advantage to attract some
high status women. For everyone else who is happy with the way that they act
now at least you can know why that actress you’re stalking doesn’t return your
calls. It’s not you, it’s just social psychology.
So
if you are a man who is unemployed or underemployed, fiscally challenged, and
already have a few children, don’t be angered next time a woman rejects you;
it’s just evolution at work.
Sources:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/forums/social-relationships/8747-signs-low-status-people-aka-losers.html
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