Are you a High Status Person or a Low Status Person?
As a social scientist I am always intrigued by the way humans interact with one another. The other day I pondered the question of why do women reject men? It’s funny because I am a woman and I really don’t know. Much of our actions are seemingly instinctual or done subconsciously. I came across the conclusion that as women we reject or choose men based primarily on social stratification which simply put is the hierarchy of social classes in a culture. Every culture has social stratification and social status rules much in our lives. At least coming from the point of view of an early twenty-something year old woman in America.
Many men will scorn the world because they are rejected by a woman. I mean the world just seems so unfair because why can’t she see that he will treat her better than the usual rich and attractive men that she goes after. It is an old saying that we want what we can’t have and I believe that most women desire men that are above their social status. It saddens me because this leaves many good men with their hearts broken and hardened but women have to go after the person that would most likely be able to support and take care of her children. This can be a good thing because from a basic survival standpoint, one needs to be able to determine which persons are different and potentially dangerous. Also one needs to be able to determine which person has the best means and DNA to reproduce and help them survive. The problem with this is, if there is a group that is on the top that means there are people beneath them.
While surfing the net I found a hilar website called seductionbase.com. It’s a site for PUA (pick up artists). I have to give a legend key for all of the
Apparently this whole PUA trend is pretty popular with forums and websites dedicated to the “art” of picking up women. Although entirely sexist in nature, he does have some really good points! LOL
I especially liked his post on the qualities of high status people found here http://www.seductionbase.com/seduction/cat/Before_PU/basic/198.html . It has some truth to it because some of these exhibit leadership capabilities and alpha male tendencies that can apply to both men and women. Here are some lists to know if you are a high status person or low status person.
Qualities of High Status People
· They are attractive and desirable
It’s no secret that people who are physically fit and healthy are deemed not only more attractive but more likable and successful. There are people who feel that even though they have a little extra around the middle they are still healthy and happy. While this may be true, from a social standpoint healthy looking = happy successful person is usually the stereotype. They also keep up with the trends of the time. That is a part of being socially adept.
· They are naturally confident
I think this one speaks for itself. I think it is pretty obvious when someone is cultivating false confidence. True confidence is not loud; it’s not bragging, or defensive. When someone is truly confident it is silently known, powerful, and expansive. These people believe in their abilities.
· Socially gifted
You know the type. The person who can effortlessly make friends everywhere he or she goes or charm an entire crowd with her wit. It seems like a natural gift that they’re born with.
· They value their time and energy
This I especially agreed with because people who are successful are usually always doing something for the betterment of themselves. While others are doing things to seek pleasure and outside validation, these people are constantly working towards their goals.
· People seek approval and attention from them
People will jump through hoops for these people and hang onto their every word. People see their value and worth and want to be around them. They are the ones sought out for validation.
Qualities of Low Status People
· Seeking outside approval, acceptance, and validation
Some people don’t know how to validate themselves so they seek it from other people through attention. This translates into clinginess, needy, and desperation. They chase people and things for validation. They will do anything to make themselves feel worthy.
· Hateful of people and things they cannot have or be like
You know that salty guy that called you out of your name when you refused to give him your number? Yea that would be this guy. Instead of appreciating or looking up to others some people become bitter and hateful. I don’t know why this is. Let rejection inspire you to be a better person.
· They try to buy what they can’t earn
If you walk into the club saying, It ain’t tricking if you got it, then you my friend, might be low status. This actually makes you look lower than dirt. This is saying you’re so low that you have to give money in order to be accepted. At the end of the day no one will respect you or like you anymore for trying to buy friendship, love, or sex.
· Socially awkward
They don’t know how to just relax and be themselves around other people. And when they open their mouths they say things that are inappropriate to the situation. They either do too much or not enough. Social skills is basically being able to feel others out and being appropriate to the group of people, and the activity.
· They are constantly fearful and jealous
These people believe the world is a big scary place. They are prone to outbursts of anger at people and are usually pessimistic. Instead of taking steps to fix their problems they just complain. They use manipulation to control the people around them because of their jealously.
Well I hope this can save some of you high status people from acting so low status (LOL). Also, men you can use this information to your advantage to attract some high status women. For everyone else who is happy with the way that they act now at least you can know why that actress you’re stalking doesn’t return your calls. It’s not you, it’s just social psychology.
So if you are a man who is unemployed or underemployed, fiscally challenged, and already have a few children, don’t be angered next time a woman rejects you; it’s just evolution at work.